Weddings

Congratulations on your betrothal! Do come and meet me for a coffee to see if I'm the celebrant for you.

There is a legal side and a creative side to a wedding ceremony. As your personal scriptwriter I will help you as much – or as little – as you like, until you have exactly what you want.

Consultation and Creation.

If you like my approach and give me the go-ahead, we shall begin with a paperwork meeting in person, where I will provide the Notice of Intended Marriage and the Official Declaration documents and help you understand and complete them. We will all sign them. I will also need to see a passport or birth certificate and some photo ID, preferably a driver's licence [see FAQ section for more info].

The NOIM must be 'activated' in this way no less than one month before your desired wedding date. We will also sign my fee agreement.

Then comes the fun part! I have a few questions about your tastes and what you value in life and in each other, and then I know where to start writing. I will be able to suggest rituals, symbols, poetry, song lyrics and other ideas that you might find inspiring.

As I work on the script, I will come back to you regularly by email to make sure I am getting the mood and the sentiments just right. You will have unlimited contact with me by email or phone while we build it all up. It might take 3 drafts to create exactly what you want – it might take 15 – I don't mind. On the other hand - feel free to take control of the script entirely! Some couples want me to do the whole thing; some couples just make comments; some couples run with it and send me a completed script - it's up to you. Either way, I will make sure we have it all sewn up well before the big day.

An on-site rehearsal close to the wedding date will let us make sure that the choreography feels just right, and let us spot any potential surprises such as uncomfortable sun angles, intrusive tides, microphone stage fright... ( I don't get microphone stage fright).

On the other other hand, rather than the Deluxe service described above, you might just want me for the legal bits. See 'What do you Charge?' in FAQ for details of my Elopement Package.

Also, for a small extra fee you can hold your small, intimate wedding (maximum 10 people) at my bush property in Fryerstown. See my Funerals page for a look at my lake.

On the Day.

I will arrive at the site in good time to set up my P.A. (I recommend a P.A. for more than 50 guests, especially outside). I will check the signing table (or designated picnic bench or barrel or strawbale) and set up documents and pens for the signing; double-check positions and seating; check in with members of the wedding party already assembled and anyone presenting a reading or a song; check in with your photographer, videographer, musicians, balloon pilots, dove wranglers, fire-eaters...

I will make sure your guests are ready for you in a pleasant state of excitement and attention. I will be on the lookout for the pre-arranged signal that you a ready to make your entrance...

By the time you arrive, all the work has been done. I will set the tone you want, and guide you, the guests, and everyone else with a part to play, all the way through, so that you two can relax and just concentrate on each other.

I will perform your ceremony with good cheer, dignity, and a great sense of my own privilege in quietly 'holding the door open' for you while you walk through it together.

And Finally...

We complete the occasion by signing (with your two adult witnesses) my marriage register, the official marriage certificate, and a marriage certificate in calligraphy for you to keep. I will also give you a presentation copy of your ceremony script.

Then I will give you back to your guests, and discreetly pack up and depart, leaving you to the revelry.

I lodge the documents with the Births, Deaths and Marriages Registry in the next few days.

If all that sounds about right to you – let's talk!

 

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