Commitments

Congratulations on your betrothal! Do come and meet me for a coffee to see if I'm the celebrant for you.

Not everyone wants to do the Wedding Thing. Perhaps you'd prefer to have the Commonwealth of Australia jolly-well mind its own business. You can still celebrate the marvellous thing that is your commitment to each other. I can help with that. As your personal scriptwriter I will help you as much – or as little – as you like, until you have exactly what you want.

By the way: a trained celebrant has the skills, resources and experience to create and perform your commitment ceremony just the way you want it, so most couples choose to engage a celebrant for their commitment ceremony - but there is no legal obligation to do so.

Creation and consultation.

If you like my approach and give me the go-ahead, we shall begin with a meeting in person where I ask for a few clues about your tastes, and what you value in life and in each other. Then I know where to start writing and I will be able to suggest rituals, symbols, poetry, song lyrics and other ideas that you might find inspiring.

As I work on the script, I will come back to you regularly by email to make sure I am getting the tone and the sentiments – the feelings - just right. You will have unlimited contact with me by email or phone while we build it all up. It might take 3 drafts to create exactly what you want – it might take 15 – I don't mind. Either way, I will make sure we have it all sewn up well before the big day.

An on-site rehearsal close to the ceremony date will let us make sure that the choreography feels just right, and let us spot any potential surprises such as uncomfortable sun angles, intrusive tides, microphone stage fright... ( I don't get microphone stage fright).

On the Day.

I will arrive at the site in good time to set up my P.A. (I recommend a P.A. for more than 50 guests, especially outside). I will check the signing table and any documents you might have chosen to sign as part of the ceremony (e.g. change of name, civil register); double-check positions and seating; check in with members of the ceremony party already assembled and anyone presenting a reading or a song; check in with your photographer, videographer, musicians, balloon pilots, fire-eaters...

I will make sure your guests are ready for you.

By the time you make your entrance, all the work has been done. I will set the tone you want, and guide you, the guests, and everyone else with a part to play, all the way through, so that you two can just relax and concentrate on each other.

I will perform your ceremony with good cheer, dignity, and a great sense of my own privilege in quietly 'holding the door open' for you while you walk through it together.

And Finally...

We complete the occasion by signing (with two of your most treasured people as witnesses) a couple's certificate in calligraphy for you to keep, and any other documents you have chosen to complete to help mark the occasion.

Then I will give you back to your guests, and discreetly pack up and depart, leaving you to the revelry.

If all that sounds about right to you – let's talk!

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